Ep# 105:Why Contemplating What Might Have Been Is The Key To Becoming Who You Want To Be
Episode Summary
Have you ever found yourself repeating the same patterns and not seeing new results?
This episode of the Uncommon Way dives deep into why your current mindset might be holding you back and how shifting your thinking can untangle patterns and create new results.
In this episode you will learn:
The secret process for reinventing yourself and accelerating your business growth.
The practical steps to expand your mind and consider new possibilities you never thought possible.
Gain insights into breaking free from limiting beliefs and conditioning that have kept you playing small.
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This podcast empowers female entrepreneurs to overcome imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and limiting beliefs through somatics, mindset, and spirituality, create 7-figure offers, and build an online coaching business with clarity and alignment.
Episode Transcription
[00:00:00] How do you get outside of your head when your brain, by default, is inside your head?
You're listening to the Uncommon Way business and life coaching podcast. The podcast that helps women entrepreneurs get clear on signature offers and strategies that sell themselves so you can lean back and stop the hustle. You will learn to maximize your mindset, messaging, and strategy, and step into the uncommonly successful business and life you are creating.
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Hey, welcome back to the Uncommon Way. Let's dive into it. Today, I want to share the sequence of how I walk clients through their reinvention process. Here's [00:01:00] what we'll be covering. Why you can't create new results with the same brain you have today, so you have got to start with changing yourself, or you'll drastically decelerate your timeline for whatever you would like to accomplish.
You'll learn how, tactically, to start expanding your mind to think about possibilities you have never considered. And finally, how to bring these radical shifts into your business in the most strategic ways we all think that we are swimming in an ocean of possibilities. But the truth is, it's like we're in a fishbowl. In the ocean. And that fishbowl is the way that we've been thinking, the way that we're used to thinking, and the way that we narrow our possibilities through that frame of reference. I see examples of this every day.
And I know that even a brain surgeon can't do surgery on [00:02:00] herself.
Now, the biology of the human brain is to run on autopilot. We couldn't possibly get through the day if we were having to process every bit of information and analyze and make new decisions. So, our brain tries to help us out by cataloging knowledge that it knows and helping us create these lenses and these filters so that we don't have to do so much heavy lifting with every decision and every thought.
Unfortunately, when we're trying to create something new, it's challenging because we have this propensity to stay with the status quo and keep seeing things the way that we've been seeing them. Because, statistically, for survival, it made more sense to err on the side of caution and to keep running on the assumptions that we've always had.
But that is not the way of creators and visionaries who want new things and want to stretch themselves. And [00:03:00] so just like the examples I gave you before, Typically, when we break down the most effective ways to move forward for my clients and really reach that next level that we're seeking, it becomes obvious that something we've been holding near and dear or that we just think is such a part of us or the thing that guarantees our success is really inhibiting progress.
And I believe that is because Entrepreneurship is the greatest spiritual and personal development journey for women. We always run smack into the parts of us that most need to heal or be released or be transcended. It's par for the course when women have so much conditioning that runs directly contrary to the most necessary entrepreneurial traits and skill sets, like taking up space and owning your gifts.
And charging money rather than just giving everything away for free. Developing [00:04:00] risk avoidance. All of those are what a good woman does. And so it's challenging to flip the script. And that's why when we look at studies and statistics that tell us things like Women are less inclined to apply for a job interview, for which they are partially qualified than a man is, or only 2 percent of women owned businesses are seven figure businesses, whereas 30 percent of male owned businesses are seven figure businesses.
A fantastic book that will just hit you over the head with all of these very well linked studies that demonstrate this type of conditioning is Rachel Rogers book, We Should All Be Millionaires. Really just the first chapter or two. Where she's laying all of this out is mind blowing. And you start realizing, oh, when I think maybe I'm not business savvy, there may [00:05:00] not be any basis to that.
It is interesting that women outperform men with investment performance. But we've inherited all these beliefs, and they don't serve us, and they keep us playing small. There are many personal experiences that form our own fishbowl, too, right? Maybe something that happened in junior high. Maybe behavior that you observed from your parents. So what are the beliefs and ways of being that serve me rather than serve society or serve the patriarchy?
Or serve my parents. What serves me? But before anything, you gotta be willing to let your old way of being go. Even though that feels threatening, like you may not succeed if you do that. You've gotta invite reinvention rather than staying with what has worked until now. It's not that it was necessarily wrong.
It got you where you are. It's just not where you're going. I've [00:06:00] found this reinvention process to be such rocket fuel for women's success that I've created an entire new module in the Clarity Accelerator for it. It's now the very first work you'll learn to do in that program. It used to be the work that I was doing with my private clients, until I saw such consistent mind blowing change, women blowing past membership goals that they'd had for a decade, building their business in record time.
Creating the new business they'd been holding off on, or the seven figure business they'd dreamed of. And it became apparent that I needed to get this into the hands of more women.
So to sum up, there is a huge ocean of possibilities available for you in your business, and by the nature of your brain, you're only scratching the surface of what's available. And your life can get so much richer, better, bigger, but you need to be the one to seek it out and do the work to step into it.
And don't worry. It's time to get tactical. [00:07:00] So now I'm going to give you two really powerful prompts that are going to grease the wheels and get your mind used to stretching into these directions that it's not used to and really build that muscle for yourself. Hey, if you want true clarity about your secret sauce, your people, your best way of doing business and how you talk about your offer, then I invite you to join us in the Clarity Accelerator.
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I can't wait to be your coach. Okay. Number one is, what are five possibilities from your past that you never considered? Now, in hindsight, you [00:08:00] can see it was possible, but it just never crossed your mind. I like to use the example of Rodeo Clown. It never occurred to me that I could have been a Rodeo Clown.
Now, a lot of my clients tend to go a little deeper with this, but really do stretch your brain. Just see, like, you could have skipped college. Maybe you could have been into polyamory rather than the monogamous marriage you have now. Maybe there's some athletic pursuit that you never even considered for yourself because you had a belief that you weren't athletic.
Go ahead and pause this. And take a minute to come up with three to five examples of possibilities that you did not live. Great. Okay, why did we start with the past when we're talking about reinventing the future? It's because you know more now. You are a different person than you were then. And I want you to see how much you've [00:09:00] already changed and broadened your perspective.
So if that change is possible in the ten or however many years between now and then, Why can't it happen much more quickly for you going forward? We know it's going to happen, but let's help accelerate it. And let's choose intentionally, again, rather than being on autopilot. And then there's another reason we went to the past, and that's that it's a lot safer for us.
We can't change the past. It's already happened. So we're not really going to do the things. What's the harm in playing? But now, I'm going to ask you to do the same for future possibilities. You don't have to pause, right? You can just reflect on it while you're brushing your teeth. Mindset work doesn't have to take work. You don't have to block out time in your day for it. You just have to open yourself to musing over it. Um, in the shower or when you're walking your dog or brushing your teeth. [00:10:00] And try to let yourself be equally as open with what's possible in the future as you were in the past.
Again, we're just building this muscle right now. And you don't have to do any of those things, obviously. But that form of thinking will lead you to more creative, visionary, out of the box ways of being.
Alright, here's your second prompt, which helps really bring that possibility more directly into your business today. Let's just imagine you were a sorceress who could wave a magic wand and work with any type of person you want to. This person's already a big fan, there's zero convincing required, they're just the most exciting kind of person you can imagine working with, and they are hanging on your every word.
Now, what would you say to them about the work you're going to do together? You can imagine this as a conversation, or imagine writing a letter, or creating a social media post. But [00:11:00] in this ocean of possibility, where these clients exist, what would you say to them about what comes next? Oh! I'm giving myself tingles here!
I hope you're getting them, too. Because this is the basis of everything else you'll create. Before you can reverse engineer the copy, the offers, the strategy. You need clear vision. You need to be open to what's possible, and you need to desire it enough to be willing to make some changes to the status quo, which leads into our third tip of the day, which might seem a little out there for some of you, but that's okay because this episode is all about stretching possibility.
We tend to walk through our businesses in a series of have tos. Well, because this is what's possible. I have to do this because these are my acquired skills. And this is what I imagine the most that people will pay for, and these are all the resources I have at this moment, I [00:12:00] have to have this business, or target these people, or use this strategy.
I just got off the phone with a client of mine who was thinking about her next iteration, and she was talking about creating websites, and in her frame of reference, she lives up in the Seattle area, so it was either the tech savvy startups, Or, it was the small kind of mom and pop business owner that would be her two clients.
And I just said, but what about all of these other ones that also have this really strong vision and mission, but they just don't know how to express it visually? They just know how to bring it forward. And I started naming off a few, like this Burst company. Have you heard of this? It's all dental products. It cracks me up.
It's refillable dental floss so you don't need to keep buying plastic containers over and over. And it's also like black and with charcoal in it and there are all these different reasons why [00:13:00] they have up level dental floss. And all different dental hygiene products. I love it so much. I'm such a gimmick girl. And these are businesses that might have had , a strong vision and a strong way of thinking about what they wanted to bring into the world, but not known how to do that visually
we tend to filter our decisions through this lens, right? And it's a lens that's inherently limiting. It's like when we're looking for the perfect leaf. And for those of you who don't get that reference, you can listen to my episode number two, The Decision Tree, which talks about the incorrect way that we are taught to make decisions and how to start making much more powerful, easeful, and aligned decisions.
Is that we tend to try and find a perfect leaf on a tree by going leaf by leaf and then comparing and contrasting and thinking, I could do this, but I could also do that. Well, here are all the pros, here are all the cons. And it [00:14:00] really sends our brains into gridlock, and I believe goes against our nature.
Versus, what is the trunk of that tree, right? What am I really trying to create? And then, when the branches split off. You just go with the strongest branch. And then when those split off, you go with the strongest branch. And you keep following this until you get to your leaf. It's just a completely different way of moving through your decision making process that feels just completely different.
So when you leave behind the have tos and you open yourself instead to what you want and what is possible for you. And you're willing to work towards that, of course, because we only want to use the smartest of business strategies to bring this into existence, right? This is not just about hoping and crossing your fingers at all.
But when you start from here and you flip the [00:15:00] script from, what do I have to do? Into, what if I can create whatever I want? You step into what I call Yes, and energy. And you unleash a torrent of personal power, it gives you tremendous energy and capacity to go kick ass, but it's also magnetic because people want to be around the brilliant, confident person that you are showing up as.
And it's manifestation catnip! Because you are in full receiving mode. If you keep telling the universe, this is all I get, this is my lot, you'll keep getting that. When you say, yes and, more please, why not me? You get the same in return. And this invariably transform your business. It can't not. You start thinking through, if I could do anything, what do I really want to do from that place of power? And then from there, [00:16:00] who would my people be?
If I could, again, wave my wand and have ideal clients, who are these ideal clients do I dare to dream? What offer will they need to be able to say emphatically, yes, what is something I can create so purposefully for them that it's like no other offer is available to even settle for because this is so clearly what they need.
And then from there, continuing to connect the dots, how am I going to talk about that to them in a way that really ties together both me and what I'm here to do knowing myself and them and what they're really about knowing them, and just creating very clear, concise messaging and copy that helps them feel really safe and [00:17:00] really excited.
Okay, my friend, time for you to move into yes and energy. Time for all women to move into it, actually. But time for you to be one of the groundbreakers paving the way, the uncommon way. I will see you back here next week, and remember, you know who you are. Each day, you are stepping further into what you're here to create.
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